10 Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again

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1. Coming to the door to pick someone up.

I think we’ve all had it with the incredibly unromantic “here” text, and meeting up always seems to be more casual and platonic than the alternative. Of course, meeting someone from online or any circumstance like that would probably be the exception to this rule, but generally: the 30 seconds it takes to get out of a car or cab and knock on the door makes a huge difference.

2. Trying to dress really nicely for a date.

“Nicely” means different things for different people, so I think it’s just a matter of putting effort into how you put yourself together to go out with someone. It’s not about wearing suits and petticoats again, but just realizing that, whether or not we like to accept it, appearance does count for something, and we should do our best to make sure that…

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The reason to date a girl who reads…

“You should date a girl who reads.
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow and worn.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.” ― Rosemarie Urquico

8 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Fall In Love (And 1 Reason Why You Should)

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You know those times when you just got your heart broken, and you’re thinking, “I should’ve known, I really should’ve known”? Well, I say, yes, you really should have, but there’s nothing you can do about it now, except take a little time off wallowing and then get your ass off that couch and your guard back up. So I’ve decided to help by preparing a list of situations in which falling in love would only result in heartbreak, to help you avoid repeating the same mistake.

1. Don’t fall in love in a relationship that started off with lust

This is the kind of love story that has graced both the big screen and the small screen many, many times and it had fooled a great many of us into thinking that we, too, could fall in love with a one-night stand. But it’s different here in the…

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To all sneakerheads, kickgeek or whatever-you-call-to-a-shoe-collector…

It really makes me wonder why being a “sneakerhead” nowadays is all about the Jordan’s you’ve got. Yes, I’ll give credit to guys who collects J’s, and in fact, I envy them having those kind of shoes for I also want to have one so bad (I really would like to have the Air Jordan 5 Retro Black). But think that collecting J’s does not really make you a “hardcore” sneakerhead. On the other hand, i confess that my knowledge about sneakers is not yet enough to be called “hardcore”, “master”, or “guru” of that kind, and I would like to learn more about the shoe collecting industry. Try to see the wonders brought by Nike, Adidas, New Balance, Onitsuka, Converse, Reebok, Vans, etc. The classics brought by these brands are something to look and collect for, not only the Jordan’s.

To all who is just starting to venture this kind of hobby (or passion to those who are into the industry of collecting shoes), here’s some practical tips:

1. Start with the classics and its simple colorways.

2. As you possess a reasonable number of kicks, you may then start with the rare ones.

3. Buy a sneaker that would fit your personality and your style.

4. Don’t buy a kick that you wouldn’t be wearing, if it is the rare kind, please wear it at times. It will just wear out if it stays long at your closet.

5. Choose wisely the sneaker that you will be buying for you to save money.

4 Things You Should Do While You Are Single

1. BUILD YOUR FAITH

Building one’s faith or belief is very essential in being single. It does not mean that since you are single you are alone, listening to blues, Adele, Lana Del Rey  or your favourite “emo” band! Rather, it is a time for you to build something you can keep and hold on to, for yourself and for your next relationship. Contemplate and reflect all the right and wrong decisions you’ve made, so as your strengths and weaknesses. Learn from it and it will be of great help in the building process.

You may be fresh from a break up, or been single your whole life, but make sure that you have that belief no one could break and mess with.  A faith that will keep you going through the bullshit, the good and the bad, happy or sad, summer or winter, or any situation, experience or what will those shitty people say that will hold you back.

2. DON”T ENGAGE INTO BAD RELATIONSHIPS

It is very evident nowadays that the herd of flirtatious people are scattered everywhere, and this results to bad relationship. For Pete’s sake! You are single for a reason for you to have time to make yourself ready for someone worth having, not with someone for sweet company, one night stand, friends with benefits, or for the sake of not spending time alone. Bad relationships will only give you the good feeling for a short time, conscience will strike you in the end and will make you feel miserable with your bad deed. Do realize that engaging into a bad relationship is unhealthy and is a damn waste of time! You are just wasting someone’s time, and yours. Karma’s a bitch and it will slap you so hard you’ll wake up in the morning regretting what you’ve done. Spend your time with someone who is in for the long run, and worth your time and effort.

3. HAVE TIME FOR YOURSELF

Having time for yourself when committed into a relationship is very limited – you are always with your partner doing your responsibilities as a lover. That is why when you are single, have time for yourself as much as possible. Do the things you love or did not do before (just not stupid please). Unwind and feel free – travel to places you’ve never been before, go to the beach, do extreme sports, go to an art exhibit, read the books of your favourite author, watch all the TV series you’ve missed, meet new set of friends, etc. Also this is the time for you to reconcile with yourself. Remake the old you – learn from your past mistakes, have a firm resolve to improve yourself, and build up your self-esteem. Make the best out of your time. You can use these experiences to venture on with your new someone in your next relationship.

4. WAIT FOR THE RIGHT PERSON

I know that waiting is the hardest part, but know that when the wait is over it will give you the feeling of elation and bliss. It appears confusing how you will determine if that person is really for you, but basically you will feel it – a warm feeling of admiration. Of course you also wouldn’t feel a thing if you don’t give the person a chance or you did not put your ideals about love into action, or at least try. Always have the guts and confidence. Don’t wait for the apple to fall from the tree, you should climb and get it from the top. In a way, having the right person is not only having that mutual feeling and understanding, but it is also something earned and not given.

When you’re getting to know with that person you’ll basically know if he/she is the right one the way that person shows his/her affection – the willingness to go for the extra mile, the simple gestures of good mornings and goodnights, the concern and care, the red roses even if it is not Valentine’s Day, the appreciation of his/her beauty, being there for that person all the time, etc. By such acts, you will know and feel it. Then the feeling becomes mutual and eventually becomes love. Remember that God is always perfect in timing in giving you the right person. You just need to be patient enough.